How I wish they are more understanding?

Do you hear yourself saying that when you are under stress and not getting the support you were looking for in your partners?

Many of us do especially when we are going through a rough patch in our lives. We often start to wonder if they are really our soul mate and if so, why do we feel we are getting more support from our friends than them. From them, it is more pressure than anything else.

However, I have come to understand how our lives are so interwined that they sometimes got more anxious than us. They are so "into" us that they forgot that our problems are not theirs. They started to take on so much that they felt overwhelmed especially when they have no control over the situation as well as us since it is really not their issues.

What do we do then? Remind ourselves how much they actually love us. Remind them that it is really our issues to handle and they best they can do for us is to be there for us to lean on. If that doesn't work, stop talking about your issues with them. Give them a break and that too serve as a healthy break for yourself. You can always blog or speak to someone who is less involved to get a more objective opinion.

Don't allow the situation to create a gap between the two of you in the name love.

Do you ever get stressed?

This is actually a rather common question I get from my clients. To them, they cannot imagine me getting stressed because I always appear to be so calm. Oh well, now is a good time to tell you this. I am human too. Stress is a normal thing to have actually. It is a matter of how serious it can go.

The next question is "So what do you do then?" Here's what I really want to share with you especially now that I am going through a seemingly challenging part of my life.

1. I am so blessed that I enjoy consistent and everlasting love from Jesus.
2. I am so happy that I have a soulmate who is ever supportive and gives me a shoulder to cry on.
3. I am really thankful that I have business partners who are my friends and ever so trusting and resourceful.
4. I am grateful that my family is always there for me and my mum is always ready to cook me a good meal.
5. I am so loved by my 10 months old nephew as he will never fail to smile and even laugh out loud with joy when he sees me from a distance or hear my voice.
6. I am so glad that I have friends who are always showing concern and showering me with love.
7. I am greatly blessed to always receive angelic help and miracles when I need one.

That's what I really do when I am feeling overwhelmed by challenges. I count my blessings. I focus on what's working for me in my life so that that will expand. You should too.

Importance - a value that make sense only to the giver

This entry is way overdue. I was really busy with family, work and me. But mostly with myself. I got walk-the-talk you see.

These days when I start my first sessions with new clients, I make sure that they understand the most important thing in their lives is themselves. I am not asking them to be selfish. Let me explain...

Everyday, we felt that the reason why we do not have time for ourselves is because everything else is very important.

Question: Who give value of importance to these things? They are important to you but if you do not 'exist' anymore, can they still be important?

Honestly, those questions do not need a genius to answer. That's what I was doing. Taking care of myself especially when I am extremely busy. I need time alone to breathe properly. I am not joking. Breathe properly changes a person's state. In layman term, a person's emotion.

Let me be thrifty in my words. Compare the rate of survival when you go without:-
1. Food
2. Water
3. Oxygen

I rest my case... I am going to breathe now... all the way to my diaphragm. How relaxing!