How I wish they are more understanding?

Do you hear yourself saying that when you are under stress and not getting the support you were looking for in your partners?

Many of us do especially when we are going through a rough patch in our lives. We often start to wonder if they are really our soul mate and if so, why do we feel we are getting more support from our friends than them. From them, it is more pressure than anything else.

However, I have come to understand how our lives are so interwined that they sometimes got more anxious than us. They are so "into" us that they forgot that our problems are not theirs. They started to take on so much that they felt overwhelmed especially when they have no control over the situation as well as us since it is really not their issues.

What do we do then? Remind ourselves how much they actually love us. Remind them that it is really our issues to handle and they best they can do for us is to be there for us to lean on. If that doesn't work, stop talking about your issues with them. Give them a break and that too serve as a healthy break for yourself. You can always blog or speak to someone who is less involved to get a more objective opinion.

Don't allow the situation to create a gap between the two of you in the name love.